With Love- Entry Four

Love. Is. Never. Enough. 

It doesn’t just fall into your lap… Okay, so maybe you just fall in love, but really it takes work to keep that love & passion burning. We’re raised with this romanticized idea that love is unicorns, sunshine, rainbows and fairytales… HELLO? No, my loves; it takes real dedication to make love work. The moment you decide to say to someone “I love you” (in the intimate context) you’ve made a conscious decision to hold their heart in your hand. And now, they hold yours.

Be careful. Understand the gravity of the situation. Love isn’t just a word. It’s an action, a state of mind, a promise to give yourself completely until the end of time. Choose carefully.

Love is supporting your partner. You both have dreams. Who better to share them with?
Love is comfort… sometimes just sitting silently and embracing each other during difficult times.
Love is accepting the darkest part of them. Nobody is perfect. And we cant expect every part of someone to change. Learn to accept them.
Love is compromise. Do things for each other you wouldn’t normally do. It’s okay.
Love is respect. Treating each other equally.
Love is romance. Fall in love everyday. Do the crazy foolish things you want to do, no matter how embarrassing.
Love is conversation, friendship. Sitting at the dinner table and laughing with each other over the things that made us crazy that day.
Love is trust. Have friends both mutual and separate it’s healthy to let her have a girls night or let him have a guys night.
Love is confidence. In each other and your relationship of course but having the confidence to build your partners, is so much more important.

I’ve made many mistakes but I’ll do whatever it takes to help you to never repeat them.

Someday, when I’m at your wedding I’ll know that these lessons will guarantee the longevity of your marriage. I’ll know that my children know love. It’s important to give what you receive… I give you love today, so you can gather it and one day give all that love you’ve stored, to a very important person. It’ll be beautiful and I’ll be proud as I am always proud.

Love, Me

With Love- Entry Three

If your father and I have been the least bit successful in raising you both, you are caring, compassionate, and empathetic among other things. The type of people others come to in their time of need. This, my sweet children, is what life is made of. Living life doing for others… what you would like done for you, the golden rule. However, once in a while complications will arise.

People will from time to time take advantage, be good but also weary. Is it okay to do a lot for one person if that person can only repay you in kindness and friendship? Yes. Take it. But if they take what you give and quickly turn on you, then only call on you when they need you once more, learn to accept that is not friend.

These decisions are hard to make, and believe me, we’ve all been there. Study your friendships with a keen eye. No one should manipulate you or take you for granted. One day, you’ll make that choice that definitive moment in life you’ll lose someone but gain so much more. It’s okay to cut someone loose who takes and never gives, it doesn’t make you terrible. You deserve so much more than that.

I’ll know when you come to me, that hurt and despair over the actions of a friend and “I’ll say you have a heart of gold, just as I intended, but to keep it gold… You should surround yourself with worthy people. People who will help you polish your golden heart to a brilliant blinding shimmer.”

I’ll live and die happy knowing you’ll be your brightest, loved genuinely. 

With Love- Entry Two

It’s an unusual world we live in. There’s barriers where there should be open space and free reign. We’ve improved so much as a human race, technologically speaking. I never have to be near you to see you, or speak to you. I can express words of love and encouragement via text. With smileys that serve as a facade for emotion “😍😘❤️” unreal, numbingly frigid.

Don’t lose yourself in this sea of advances. Sometimes, we need that human touch. That warmth and comfort that comes from a hug and a peck on the cheek. Don’t rob yourself of the memories of smelling someone’s cologne (or perfume), a scent that burns into your brain and holds the power to connect you to the past. A look that strikes your heart and makes it flutter with excitement. The smile that weakens your knees. Or hearing your name made for that voice to say… Like a melody meant to be sang by only one so special it paralyzes you. A series of words etched on a paper that bring tears to your eyes or a pink hue to your face, the first hint of love or even lust. Nothing is more meaningful that the human connection we have with the world and with each other. Throughout your life maintain a true romance, with yourself. Fall in love and sometimes (hopefully more often than not) stop my dears, and smell the roses. So when it’s your time to grow old, you know you haven’t missed a thing.

Love, Me

With Love- Entry One

To my babies:

No one said this life would be easy, no one ever told me it was worth it either. I was raised with only one purpose… Educate myself. And I failed at that. I’ve never been a good daughter, not nearly a perfect sister. As a person, I may leave a lot to be desired. But I love, goodness I love with the entirety of my heart. So much so, it physically ails me when someone I love is sad. My greatest loves are you, my children. So if I am a terrible friend, sister, daughter it’s okay. Yet I refuse to fail YOU.

About Me-

If you need me; I’m here, not always physically but emotionally and even mentally, you’re always in my heart and even in my thoughts. I don’t carry an off switch because for me at least, it doesn’t work that way. If you really love a person you can’t simply cut that love off. Then it was never love. But if you separate from me I love you so much and so dearly that I release you. Never denying my friendship or my love for you, simply respecting your desires. My arms always open for when you return.

Kids, when you love someone and I mean anyone not just a man or a woman in the intimate sense but a friend or family member, you never turn your back. They push and pull and say hurtful things and maybe you’ll ask daddy and daddy will say “Remove them from your life.” but if you ask me I’ll say, that person is different than you and shows love (and insecurity) differently. Don’t push or pull or hurt them back. Say simply “I’m sorry if I failed you, if in someway I have hurt you. But that hurt and it was unjust and undeserved”. Because in the end, with each angry, bitter, hateful word you spill you only harm yourself. You my loves were put on this earth to be much better than that.

No matter how badly I ruin me, I’m never so awful to bring someone else down with me on a bad day. Neither should you. There is NO better feeling my loves then reaching beyond that pain and giving love, no smile more genuine, no joy that can heal more. Nothing will help your heart grow more that sharing the love in your heart.

Then, when I die, you will sit at my bedside and I will want to know (if nothing else) I taught you LOVE in all it’s splendor. Not the romanticized, tragic Romeo and Juliet “love” but the kind of love people of all paths will remember you for. I want to leave behind two adults so selfless, that I know they’ll never be alone. You will be loved. Love, Me